The Lesson Of A Breakup
Some people enjoy what they call “living the single life”, while others are in pure denial because they truthfully feel alone. What about the other group? What about that bunch that enjoys the bliss of being in a relationship? That bunch that finds happiness in going to the cinema, amusement parks, sitting on benches in the summer watching sunsets, romantic walks at night on the beach and so much more.
Does that mean that single people don’t have any fun? Nay, of course they do. However there is a difference when such moments are shared with someone that you care for romantically versus running the gauntlet of life wild with friends. A result that for the single individual marks feelings of loneliness after the fun is had, and friends go there separate ways.
So what happens when the oh so famous couples of the world split, break up, or as some see it fall apart. Yes the same couples who flaunt there impressions of love on everyone leaving them no choice, but to watch the channel. If only there was a universal remote to tune in to something more desirable, or better yet turn the program off. Truthfully that’s what it has become these days. Love that is, just another program in the lives of individuals so conditioned they miss out on the honor of a true human experience.
Love exists for the single individual as much as it does for the couple. What sets them apart is how one interacts with the impressions it leaves behind. True love comes from God, and being that he never changes, does love really? So instead of judging (singles) those trying to enjoy their (couples) version of love learn from it, and vice versa couples.
It is amazing that when most couples split oft times, only one of the individuals seems to do most of the mourning. On occasion it’s both whereby others will say “they loved each other”. “It’s so sad that it didn’t work out, they are both good people”. Therein lies the evidence of how we view love many a times. When two mourn it is seen as genuine, but when one does there isn’t much weight given to the experience. Pitty that such err in ways should occur.
When one loves genuinely it does not require the receiver to love back. Love is giving without expectations. It teaches, and causes it’s subjects to grow. Thus two individual being great people does not guarantee them being great together.
The significance of loving alone affords one the opportunity to appreciate another when such a love comes. They do this by first learning to love themselves. Thus loving together (in a relationship) builds and experience that can’t be had alone. Losing such a gift is not the end of the world however.
It is only the beginning to a new adventure. A journey that has never taken place anywhere before in time. Each persons travels is unique within its own right. So instead of looking at what seems to be a loss, realize the gift that was given freely. You have been taught and did not see. Your eyes were closed and now they see. The mind was asleep and now you have awoken. The dream state has gone leaving only the conscious individual. Such moments as you begin to cherish them can leave you breathless, yet fulfilled. You are not alone, and you have not lost.
The gain now recognized is that the next best thing could be just that, God’ best fit for you. The past experiences has in its expiration left doors opened that a more positive and accomplished life can usher in anew.. It could be the also be the opposite of course, but all in all you will have had what most people miss out on, the opportunity to love. Live, Love, Learn, Teach, and grow for each day you have been given is love. Praise God for his mercy and grace and don’t give up. for the journey has just begun.
By: D’andrea Lewis